The things a woman must do to have a successful marriage.
PILLAR
OF SUPPORT
The strongest impact
a woman aiming to make a difference in her marriage is to act as a pillar of
support for that marriage. Pillar of support is actually an all encompassing
word and include all the ingredients of a motherly role, sister and friend
combined to compliment the man’s effort in moving the marriage forward. The man
expects total reliance on the woman. Every mother for instance, shows love,
understanding, communicates, refusing to give up on her child etc that is what
a man expects from a wife. At the same time a true friend should be able to lay
down his life for another and so on for a sister etc.
With the combination
of these virtues in a woman a man will go at length to satisfy that woman. The
woman would hold a special place in the heart of the man.
It is sad these days
to see women create so many gaps between them and their spouses by their
utterances and actions and still expect the marriage to succeed.
Be
committed to the success of the marriage. When some people
are committed to the success of a thing, they give it their best in order for
it to succeed. In the same vein, commitment to the success of the marriage
should be of utmost priority in every woman’s agenda.
Pay close
attention and communicate regularly with your spouse. Some women call their
husband their lord and that is how it should be seen. A wife who wants to
distinguish herself in marriage should learn to communicate regularly and pay
close enough attention to her husband. Communication holds the key to every
successful marriage and in fact bridges the gap we inadvertently create in our
marriage, when a woman imbibes this art; she is much more likely to see a great
change in her marriage. Communication and attention should transcend beyond the
ordinary and even goes to the minute details of the marriage which may be sex
or issues effecting the children, house keep etc.
Be
appreciative and never criticize unnecessarily,
another crucial step for a woman to creating a successful marriage is to
appreciate the man you have no matter what and regardless of the situation.
Appreciating your spouse i.e., being grateful that you have him and never
confront or unnecessarily criticizing him are effective weapons to strengthen
the foundation of that marriage.
Encourage
and learn to respect him. The problem here is that most
women have become so familiar with their husband that they hardly respect their
spouse again not to talk of encouraging him. Familiarity is good in marriage
but the moment it begins to degrade your spouse effort it becomes questionable.
Again encouraging your spouse can take the form of trying to know from time to
time to know what is happening in his business or work place, health etc
thereby showing some level of concern.
Never
assume anything and learn to forgive. The issue here is that wrong assumption
especially on part of the woman towards her
spouse and bearing or nursing grudges overtime have rocked rather than
strengthen most marriage institutions. Clearly discuss issues as they arise and
also have a forgiving heart when you are offended as these will help to
solidify that union. Women should learn to stop carrying
bag gages at any point in time in their marriage
Be
happy and humorous. Women should go extra mile to
lighten up, stop carrying burdens or act as if the world is about to collapse
under your feet. Be humorous, search for happiness, Remember, challenges will
always come and go but your sagacity is what matters.
Other critical
steps to strengthen the foundation of most marriages and create happiness are
for the women to be physically intimate with their spouse, be transparent in
your dealings, fulfill your responsibilities as a wife and focus on the long
term vision which is to help the man by helping the marriage succeed.
Finally, women
should know that creating an ideal home starts by getting clear on what they
want and choosing to create it are the ideal qualities or ingredients that will
make a happy home.
